Attachment-focused

relationship counseling

Being in close, intimate partnership with another person can be a beautiful dance. It can also be one of our deepest and most painful challenges, revealing thoughts, feelings, sensations, and behaviors we didn’t even know were there within us. It’s very common for us to run into relationship conflict or dissatisfaction at various points on the journey within a newly deepening relationship, long-term partnership, or marriage. When this happens and a couple feels alone, it can be very hard to see the path towards cultivating peace, ease, and fulfillment together.

With support, the burdens of this journey can lighten. Solutions can be found. Trust and connection can be discovered, cultivated, and practiced.

You and your partner can create a secure relationship. And I want to help you do just that!

Remembering secure love.

  • Conflict resolution

    If you are having heated, out of control, or disconnected arguments that lead you and your partner into painful or lonely places, this is one way that attachment-focused couples counseling can help you approach conflict in new ways that serve you and the health of your relationship. With time and practice, you will learn to communicate with one another in ways that cultivate trust, intimacy, and a deepening connection.

  • Intimacy

    Sometimes being close is a challenge in relationship. If you and your partner would like to experience more depth, intimacy, affection, or a more satisfying sexual connection, there are ways to learn and cultivate intimacy within the safety of your relational space. Through self-reflection, relational practices, and nervous system awareness, a deepening intimacy can grow and be continually sustained over time.

  • Betrayal trauma

    When trust has been betrayed, whether due to infidelity or something else, the relationship needs space and time to repair. This process can be deeply supported by receiving outside support on the journey towards rebuilding a safe and secure relationship foundation. Betrayals are emotionally complicated, and couples therapy will allow each partner to feel seen and heard in your experience of healing and growth.

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Building, deepening, & expanding your bond.

  • Communication

    Learn to express thoughts, feelings, and needs clearly with your partner, while also learning to attune to your partner’s verbal and nonverbal communication more accurately. Practice using communication strategies that encourage openness, honesty, and effectiveness.

  • Mindful loving

    Engage with practices that infuse mindfulness into your relationship process. Grow your capacities for present-moment witnessing, self-inquiry, relational awareness, and clear thinking. Learn to see your relationship as the greatest catalyst for your individual growth and healing.

  • Commitment

    Feel supported while having intentional conversations about your attitudes toward commitment. Build safety with one another while discussing barriers to commitment, vulnerabilities, and family of origin issues in ways that lead to deeper understanding, intimacy, and growth.

  • Regulation

    Cultivate healthy practices for handling situations where you or your partner are emotionally triggered. Develop self-care practices that create deeper nervous system resilience that leads to more peaceful communication and quicker resolution to conflicts on an ongoing basis.

My styles & frameworks.

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT-informed)

Utilizing attachment science, this framework helps you identify and understand the negative conflict cycles that feel most difficult for you as a couple. Learning new communication strategies, you will grow into feel closer and more supported through hard moments in your relationship. This work takes practice and commitment, and it is absolutely worth it.

Experiential learning

It is through imperfect practice that we learn and adopt new relationship mindsets and behaviors. During our sessions we will aim to help you bring the concepts we discuss into your bodies, and into practice with one another in real time. These practices will help you embody the love, trust, and openness you wish to feel and express with one another.

Interpersonal neurobiology

When it comes to intimate relationships, and especially romantic partnerships, our nervous systems are very important when considering what is really going on during our interactions. By slowing down and learning about your safety and threat systems, I will help you learn how to create structures and systems that help one another feel more connected.

If any of the above speaks to you and your partner, please reach out to schedule a consultation call. You will be met with warmth, support, and encouragement for whatever your relationship challenges are having you navigate. Stepping into relational work is not an easy thing to do, and I hold deep respect for all who courageously accept the invitation to grow within a connected bond.

Thank you, and I hope to speak with you soon!

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